MisInformation

Being unhappy is much easier than figuring out what is wrong. That is why people say “Misery loves company.” It is much easier to surround yourself with others who choose to look for excuses rather an a way out of the situation. Some people act like, simply because they always ask for help, they should be cured by now. Well, you’re never going to better yourself because, when you look at it, you can only feel good in ways others teach you to. What i mean is, if you see a therapist, and they suggest something to try and it works, that’s one thing. But, there is a greater satisfaction out of doing the homework and solving your own problems rather than someone just giving you the answers to whatever life test is before you, and you write them down in the answer spot.

I’ve asked people what their issues are, and they say “Well, my friends/coworkers/spouse says I too picky/lazy/emotional.” Whatever the issue, you accepted a label, you never really came to any valid conclusion as to why you may be the way others have convinced you you are.

Say all of you friends say you are “no fun” to be around. But, one chain smokes, the other drinks too much, one has a litter of kids, another sleeps around, and the last one likes the bar scene. Okay, all these people just tried to convince you that you are wrong for not doing the things they hoped would bond you all together. See what i’m driving with this? If you accept that all of your friends things you are a stick in the mud and not consider that you surround yourself with the wrong people, you are not cured. To not do any of those things your friends do means you are above the crap they need in their lives to feel important, wanted or needed. You don’t need that crap, so THEY judge YOU? Please. Get new friends.

The perpetual state of sadness for some is comfort when among others who also choose not to address their issues. That is why our friendships become one sided, our relationships fail, and our lives seem mired in controversy. We bask in misery instead of escaping into our own sense of individuality. Stop allowing people that are constantly unhappy into your lives. Stop thinking you need to stick around until they get better. Stop believing that people will change if you just love them more. It doesn’t work that way. They want to be miserable. If they didn’t, they’d seek help or accept constructive criticism.