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The feedback from the book has been great. I want to thank everyone who purchased it, and i hope you have a yellow highlighter available because, you will need it.

The sentiment of most reading my book is “It’s to the point, factual, and necessary, but …..did you have to say it like that?” To be honest yes. I couldn’t write this book and sugarcoat it; that would have made it a run-of-the-mill book like everything else already on the market today. The best advice I can give you is this: Those who read this book and do not see themselves within any chapter will understand why I wrote it. Those seeing themselves every time they turn a page are going to be upset because, sadly, the book is about you.

Lastly, My focus is to dispell the myths that many women use to overshadow why they are single, bitter, never married, can’t keep or don’t have a man. If you are a woman using any of the excuses or cliqued lines in this book, the problem is you, and not all men.  Even as recently as this week I’ve recieved a lot of guff from bitter black women are never take the time to read anything I’ve written to form an accurate opinion. They only thing they assume I that if i am a black man, I must have issues with black women. Well, black women who are quick to judge before educating themselves on the topic they assume is about them.

Listen, nothing I have ever written will paint any race or gender with a broad brush. And, if you only knew how many times I’ve had to reiterate that point. I delete most of the comments on the site because they simply don’t make sense or prove nothing at all. Comments about me being unattractive, ashamed of being black, elitist, all that crap just proves my point–people like that only hate what they do not understand, yet refuse to educate themselves on to form any opinion at all. Were I to sugarcoat everything, kiss women’s behinds and tell them they are never wrong or deserve better treatment even when they fall short in relationships would make me a typical author. There’s enough of those out there already.

If you (the reader) cannot get past the title of my book, or the first chapter, that speaks volumes about your issues. They can only be resolves if the mediator agrees with you. But how does that solve your problem? Correct, it doesn’t. The most common sentiment from those who’ve read my books are “When I first started reading it I hated you. Then, as i got deeper into the book and saw where you began to clear up what you said earlier, it all made sense. Now when I am out, I see the very things you speak of and now I get it.” I promise you that if you are skeptical about reading my books, you will feel the same way. You will not be able to put them down, and you will not regret the few bucks you spent to learn a little something you didn’t know before.

John Edwards

Okay, okay, I saw it, he cheated! Gettin’ his creep on! I get it, ladies! Powerful men can’t keep it in their pants, blah, blah, blah! Point taken! Now, here’s why your argument has legs but can’t walk–Women can’t stop marrying them, either! Can they? The chick he got caught with would marry his cheatin’ behind in a heartbeat! Step right to the front of the “I cheat on the women I love!” line! as soon as Ms. Edwards dies! A U-haul will be backing up the driveway within months! Why? Not cuz he’s a great guy, but he’s got money! Money makes so many women stupid it’s pitiful. I don’t care how much money a grossly obese, unattractive woman has, she may still have pay for the lovin’. But, no matter how foul, abusive or unfaithful a man clearly was to his ex, a fine woman ready to quit her job will step right in–Kobe Bryant, Michael Jordan, Bill Clinton, even John Edwards.

Money changes everything! Trust me, had a janitor held a press conference to admit he cheated on Dorothy Jenkins; he’d get stomped at the first cookout he showed his face! Knock his plate of ‘tater salad out his hand and whup-his-aiyuss! It’s money! That’s how those women stand up there all humiliated (LOL) and stone-faced (LOL) “I-I l-love my h-husband very m-much! We will get through this.” No you won’t. Not if you’re really hurtin’! Proof there’s nothing to get through. Prolly wasn’t having sex with each other anyway, while ya talkin’! When a woman has no expression on her face, like Hillary Clinton, they weren’t bumpin uglies anyway. Bill prolly ain’t tagged Hillary in 4 or 5 dress sizes! (LOL) Hill’ done blew-the-fugg up! Hillary is bouyant these days! Couldn’t drown if she wanted to! LOL!!! Hillary is drowning,SAVE HER! “I’m alright. Just my azz got wet!” Pant suit-wearin’ azz!

I’m off topic! All women know men with as much fame and power as the men in recent memory had are prone to cheating. They know that it’s a risk to marry them. Women also that men like this highly desired by..other women! So, as much as I would love to allow you to blame the cheating men for this, women, I must toss your hat into the ring as well. Here’s why: In order for a married man of any status to cheat, there has to be a woman willing to go along with being the other woman. With me so far? (Equate it black on black crime, if you have to.) The man is lowdown and foul, but women play an equal role in this by wanting to shag another woman’s man in the first place. I repeat: Another woman’s man! Does the media every say that? No, because as I have always said, the media’s main objective in any story is find fault in men and sympathy for women. Why do women sleep with other women’s men? Because taking that man or just having him for a night allows her to believe she deserves the lifestyle said man lives, and is woman enough to take that man if she plays her cards right. Do anything for a man with money, but won’t do anything to become successful without a man. Sad.

Look, John Edwards cheated on his wife who, coincidentally, has terminal cancer. I know, I know, “Boooooo!” Does that make him more of an a-hole? Maybe not! They’ve been together since college, putting them at possibly 20 years together. How do you know he hasn’t been cheating since day one? Before the cancer and the money? The media is spinning this crap so women get a rise in their shorts with their belief that all men cheat no matter how good you are to them. But how we know you were as good to a man as YOU say you were? What is considered “Good” to you? Besides, this may not be the first affair for her or any of the women shamed by these scandals. Hell, Hillary Clinton is now the poster child for cheating husbands and since all women like her for reasons none can explain, she and Bill get a pass. Nonsense!

John Edwards cheated, yes. His wife stood by him when he admitted it, yes. But how do you know she didn’t give him a pass for forgiving her for cheating on him? We don’t know both sides! All we know is what the media feeds us, and the media is going to feed us what (again) makes the man look bad and the female like the victim. They could have been having threesomes for all we know. Hillary Clinton is a hero for being cheated on for decades and Bill Clinton gets to call himself the “First Black President” with that reputation? And many black folk are dumb enough cosign it without looking any further than it sounds cool? Sad! (Save the hate mail.)

I’ll end with this: Don’t be so quick to assume that any woman “standing by her man” in a moment of shame is doing so out of love or some altered state of mind. Don’t assume that these women are victims at all. I know women who like women that are married w/kids and their husbands know it, and vice versa. Just because couples like this (high profile) alway end due to infidelity doesn’t mean most of these women didn’t know their men were creepin in the first place. They only look mad or file for divorce now because everybody knows. When it was a secret agreement to “Do your thang, just don’t get caught!” it was gravy cuz she was doin’ hers. The media is always going to make the men the scapegoats, no matter who cheated. They say crap like “I’m sure she’s more concerned right now about their 2 children than that cheating bastard.” Really? You’re sure of that? Nobody reading this doesn’t know of a couple with kids (a 4, 6 and 9 year old) where the 6-year old don’t look like either of them? Far more women know their men fathered children DURING their marriage than you could imagine. Stayed right there! Took him back cuz nobody knew. Hell, somebody you just spoke to today probably isn’t the real father of one his kids! Women know far more than we think they do; public sympathy allows them to skirt blame or responsibility.