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Here’s the reason our society is in a rapid decline…..no shame!!!! Nobody is ashamed of any behavior anymore. There used to be a time when you cared wht others thought of you. Now it seems that the worst people think of you, the better you feel about yourself. Sick! Sad!

As a kid, the worst thing that could ever happen to you was your momma coming outside in that big ass housecoat with the wooden spoon in the pocket to whip your butt in front of everybody. (For some reason poor mommas loved to let everybody see you get beat down.) Or, she came to the school to deal with you with those curlers in her hair and, yes, the big ass overcoat-lookin’ housecoat with the food stains on it because the principle called while she was cookin’. That was shame. Next to that, losing a fight. Losing a fight was the ultimate. Thought you’d never live it down. But, today…..

Today young girls are pregnant at 14, losing their virginity at 12, have STD’s or on their second or third abortion before college, and there is absolutely no shame. None! The whole neighborhood knows you don’t know who the actually father of the baby might be, and you go on national television to find out. National television? Have you no sh–?

Women dress so provacatively these days that wondering if she isn’t a hoe is the hardest thing you have to do. There used to be a time where if you weren’t like that, you didn’t wear that. Now, if you wear it, all the time, it still doesn’t mean you are a skank. I don’t buy that for a second. Sure fads are fads, but no woman dressed like hoe, hanging with hoes, in a place where hoes hang is going to tell me not to judge her by her clothing. They have it so twisted now that they try to argue morality while dress immorally. Gotta choose which side of the fence you are on ladies.

As for the men, no shame not having a job, can’t read good, already have two baby mommas, sell dope and been to jail….and women still date them!!!!! Remember when a girl wouldn’t date you cuz you have a loose tooth or like one grey tooth in the front? Your mom used to drive you to school and the kids made fun of you. Now if you just stop going to school, quit pulling your pants up or combing your hair, and learn 3 or 5 popular rap slangs, and you can knock two girls up by summer’s end. The girls have truly lowered their standards for what they consider boyfriends all because there is no shame in having a boyfriend with no future, no goals, poor hygiene, or 8th grade education. He’s okay to date now? Wow! And you’re on talk show panels complaining about the man? Have you no…? (Sighs!)

Shame is necessary to teach morals, class and responsibility. It kept you humble, grounded and on track. It made you work harder to not mess up again. Now shame came make you famous, rich or popular. And all seem to be a better trade-off than respected. You can call a woman bitch in your songs or molest young girls, and women still show up at your concerts and buy your music? Sad day, people. Sad day.

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 So it is true; many cities across the nation are considering a ban on saggy britches. Many are going to issue citations ranging from a few dollars to misdemeanor charges if caught exposing too much of what should be neatly tucked beneath your outerwear anyway. Sad day, people. Sad day.

The opposition I am seeing in with the law being to race specific. That the law ultimately would target african americans more than any other race. Well, that may be true but, we can’t fight other peoples battles, we must fight our own. And, we must get our youth in line or the government will do it for us. I’m not piling on the black youth, but it is a sad commentary of our culture when the goverment must legislate morality. Many in society already think little of blacks as it is, but for the government to have to pass laws so our kids pull their pants up? If that doesn’t sicken you to your stomach, you are probably part of the problem.

Now, is the law fair? Does it include skanky women with half their butt cracks showing? The ones with their pants cropped at the crotch and their shirts chopped at the midsection? Too much skin is just that, too much skin. The boys are more deliberate with their sagging, but the women’s feet must be held to the fire as well. Young girls are walking out of the house wearing next to nothing, and nobody seems to think anything of that because, i guess, they are keeping up with the trends. It’s fashionable when a woman demoralizes herself in the name of trend or fashion, but despicable when a man does? A double standard if there ever was one.

Bottom line: when the government has to pass a law so your no-good behind will act like you have some sense, you don’t have long for people to feel sorry for you. Your actions are just that, your own. Grow up, pull your pants up, or pay up. I’m for it. Give em the tickets!

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The line above is an audio piece about the growing number of out-of-wedlock births and the decline of marriage in the black community. Interesting, but not quite on point. It addresses what could or should be done on a national level, but speaks nothing about women and personal accountability. It seems to do what everyone else is doing-blaming the black male.

I’ll try to keep this short and sweet: 70% (if that number is even accurate) of black women have children out of wedlock for the same reasons i explained in my books, and on various blogs on this site: poor choices in men, having them too young. Now the majority of the 70% are had by girls between the ages of 14-17. Is marriage an option then? No! Even if the 16-year old heathen who knocks up his 15-year old girlfriend wanted to marry her, it would not be legal, nor would it make sense seeing as how neither of them have a clue about life, love or marriage, and now …raising a child. It would be a recipe for distaster beyond the already unwanted pregnancy. So, you can’t curb the number of single moms out there until young girls stop having kids by boys! I don’t care how nice and sweet a young teen boy is, he does not want to be married!

Black marriage is down for several obvious reasons. Not that black men fear commitmen, (because that is a load of bull!) hoodlums, thugs and fake gangstas fear commitment, and that is who a majority of the girls you see pregnant in school or roaming the ghettos at night pushing baby strollers are having kids by. Real black men are not greatly represented here! I don’t have any kids, and only two of my many, many close friends have kids, and one is married and the other is in jail. Every other friend that i have is either married with no kids, or simply has no kids!!!! But, who do I know that has several kids by several women they have no intentions of marring? Guys from my old neighborhood that sold drugs, drove expensive cars, bar hop, or live a street hustlers lifestyle…they have a ton of kids, usually by 2-5 women! That’s right, one guy with a criminal history, bad attitude, sells drugs and clearly doesn’t work… has 3 or 4 kids all within a few blocks of where he lives. Young, dumb girls impressed by his street cred’, chrome wheels or the outfits he buys them. So, the solution starts at home with the mother (father present or not!) doing her job and educating her young girls!!!

Now, is the problem that black men refuse to raise their children, or that black women choose date the worst men they can find, and pass off their dialy whoas to the upstanding black man since they can’t find their sperm donor? Again, hoodlums and thugs don’t want jobs, haircuts, belts for their pants, wives or..(wait for it) KIDS!!! So why are these girls in bed with them? No self-esteem, and no example from their mother of what an acceptable partner is since mom never attracted or married one. This has less to do with the street hustler banging your daughter and more to do with single mothers dropping the ball raising their daughters because they had them too young themselves!

 Black marriage is down because black women already have too many kids and too much attitude about their misfortunes when you meet them!!! (yeah, I said it!!) I know plenty of black men that want to marry, but they don’t want to marry the girls they meet with 3 kids already before they turned 25 by guys that are dead, in jail, soon to be released from prison, 3 daughters, 3 boys, you name it! We (the black men the media never report on) run into this all the time! Black women spewing how they are a “package deal” and that if any man wants to be with them, they have to accpet their kids by a half dozen other men!!!! This is why black women are angry at black men, because we won’t take in and raise several other men’s kids!!!! Will the media report that? Nope!

 The solution for ending the rise in births out-of-wedlock ties into the very same reason marriage is down in the black community–real black men go unappreciated by black women, leading us to date out of our race or become very selective about any black woman we would consider. Black women must understand that they need to have equal footing in relationships rather than simply being the pretty one. You look good in your jeans, but what else can you do? What do you bring to the table? I don’t have any kids, do you? Stop dating thugs you want to turn into good men, and simply date good men!

So, I’m watching Black in America w/Solidad O’brian on CNN. Supposedly, the show is about the issues affecting black America, but it turned out to be a two-hour rant on the state of black men. Basically, tear the black man down because black women can’t seem to get their acts together or have their kids by their husbands or by one man. (Yeah, i said it!)

Even the men on the panel talked down about black men, but none (men or women) even touched the main issues: our children and why they are so lost. Black children are at a disadvantage because they are lost long before reach they education system. The disconnect between bitter black women who bore children by worthless thugs and their children is the start and, possibly, the solution. I’ll explain…

 A young girls adolescence is cut short by an unexpected pregnancy (14-17 years of age). Her young life is now complicated by trying to mix growing up, school, friends, family and now a child and a failed relationship…all before the age of 18-innocence lost. Is it the boys fault? He’s worthless, no real future ahead of him, no desire to better himself, stay in school or even pull his pants up, but that is who our young black girls lay down with. Sad commentary for what young girls assume is attractive.

 The problem is not so much children out of wedlock because, you see, a 15 year old boy isn’t going to marry his 15-year old girlfriend anyway. No way! Ever! Those days are long gone! Young girls sleep around with young dumb boys for the respect, validation and attention their bitter mothers who still cannot find, keep or attract a decent man since her baby’s daddy aren’t doing anything to boost this girls self-esteem because she is not equipped to do so. She hates men, her daughters never see men treat her mother like anything, so where does she get her examples of how men or boys should treat her? The media. The music, the music videos and movies that are piped into their home through the digitial babysitter with 200 channels. Clueless single mom, from a single mom, has also failed to raise daughter. It’s a cycle women need to break, not men.

Do black men need to take more responsibility for their illegitimate children? The ones that have children, yes, but let’s dig a little deeper and get to the root of why such a large number of black children have no fathers–their mother’s make horrible choices in men. Boys or thugs they think are men are the fathers of those unwanted babies, not real black men. Thugs, bad boys, street hustlers; whatever young, clueless girls think is cool to date, father their children. Honorable men don’t have a dog in that fight, thus, we are not the cause nor solution to the problem. We aren’t driving around the ghettos in souped-up rides looking for young scantily clad girls with no direction, the thugs within that ghetto do that. Real men with lives and ambition are driving in circles in the areas they’ve worked so hard to escape. The problem within the ghetto lives in the ghetto. Thugs getting hoodrats pregnant, plain and simple!

The problem, i think, begins and ends with personal responsiblity. Who you lay with, whether or not you use protection, are both personal choices. Anything else would require a police report. So, I no longer want to hear what black men are going to do about all the illegitimate babies, when the women could simply close up shop! I don’t know a single street hustler that doesn’t have at least two babies. And, ironically, i do not know a single black male with a college degree that got any hoodrat pregnant!

So, in closing i will sum it up with this: if black women think their children are failing because who they had them by is not around, that is the lamest excuse yet. You are a young, single, bitter mother of many by men who never stuck around even name the child, and you think the problem is the men? That it is mostly their fault? Black women need to value themselves more and respond less to go-nowhere, lowlife thugs because that is who keeps knocking them up and disappearing, not black men with library cards, good credit and careers. Those men are usually divorced single parents. The men (if we can use the term) the media and Solidad’s panel were discussing are the bottom of the barrel. Young black women need to come up for air.

The show talked mainly about the lack of participation from black men in the lives of the children they’ve had with women they no longer have contact with. Now, here is what no one on the panel even mentioned…these children came from young girls having pointless sex with worthless boys who have no intentions of being men, let alone, fathers. So, the point the media tries to make with men not owning up to a woman or child they never even cared about or wanted makes no sense to me. The solution is simple: stop giving yourself to boys who want nothing for themselves. That is the first clue, and, it doesn’t take much of a parent to convey that point. He sags his pants, doesn’t comb his hair, barely can put a sentence together, and sells drugs to his own people, …but this is who young girls get pregnant by. So,