Say it isn’t so!!!!!!
Say it isn’t so!
Yeah, it is so! A reported case on the news reveals that authorities have caught a man who registered himself on a website called (get this) Millionairematch.com raping the women he meets on there. The site is designed for women to go on to get matched up with a millionaire life partner. The guys have to be millionaires to sign up, but the women can be as broke, misshapen or illiterate as they want to be, but the men must be wealthy. (Leans back scratching chin..)
Well, surprise, surprise, this guy isn’t really a millionaire! But, having great luck meeting countless women stupid enough to believe this site doesn’t come with risks. According to the news story, the man was or posed as a real estate agent with access to million dollar homes and would invite women to his home (wink-wink) and sexually assaulting them. I can’t believe women are still gullible enough to believe everything they read on (Wait! I’ve just put my foot in my own mouth!) the internet, in magazines, and books. “I’m rich, call me.” His screen name was probably RichRapist@Millionairematch.com.
I’m sorry the women got raped, but how can you not assume there is some risk with broke, gold digging women hoping some guys face they click on leads to them quitting their jobs waiting tables or ringing up groceries. What about personal accountability? Let me guess what will happen next. There will be a warning put out for women to be “more careful” when prostituting themselves for money or a life of privilege. “Careful when out there whoring, there are some deceitful men out there!” The media will spin it so the men on this website are less than credible. “These men are predators! How dareth thee!” As though the women who peruse this website have any scruples or credibility at all!
You can’t keep blaming men for what happens to some women. They bring a lot of it on themselves. Common sense was all that these women needed. How do warn the women that the men on this website are lying about who they are? Tell them to avoid the website all together, and to make their own money! Stop hoping some guy who doesn’t need you will sweep you off your aching feet into a lifestyle you will have no concept of how you go into. She knows what got her into the lifestyle, (sex) but what he does or how he maintains it completely escapes her. Clueless!
Rue Paul
Rue Paul
Paul McCartney is about to have is ass handed to him! His ex wife (Heather Mills/famous for nothing but marrying a Beatle) is asking for half of his estate in the divorce after only 4 years of marriage. Fo’ years! Four? I could see, maybe, 20 years, but it takes longer than four years to pay off a car loan, you don’t get set-for-life money for that! You failed, sweetheart! Women should be rewarded for what they bring to a marriage, not moving in and flopping on the couch!
He’s going to rue the day he coughs up that dough. I’m on Sir Paul’s side on this one, but his kids told his old ass to have her sign a pre nupt, but nooooooooooo! Ol’ Love, love me do is kicking himself in the bullocks for this one. Headline: 60-year old billionaire weds one-legged young chick? ‘Nah, I don’t need a pre nupt, we love each other.’ SURPRISE, dumbass! She wants half! $500 million! That’s so much money that you don’t even have to pronounce or spell it correctly… She wants HAFF!
Now she’s accusing him of calling her names, abusing her, throwing her false leg and making her fetch it! I believe his words were, ‘Scamper after your bloo’y limb, m’lady!’ All kinds of crap, when, she should just take a few million and the beach house, and kick rocks! But, like I say in the book (Volume 1), the woman you marry is not the same woman who can’t wait to leave your ass! Get a pre nupt, especially if you’ve been on the old Ed Sullivan show, and did a duet with Michael Jackson! Two reasons to protect yourself! First Kobe, now this. More proof that women like this do better when they leave successful men than to stick by them. Hell, I’d leave a woman giving me no problems for $500 million!
Now, sadly, this is the countdown to when she’ll end up on Oprah telling her story to sympathetic 3rd shift, and spoiled, married-up women. The date today 10/26/06. In a few weeks it will be “Oh, Oprah, it was horrible! He used to make me tickle his old wrinkled plums. He’d put jelly on them and wiggle them about. He’d say, “Pauley wants you to play with these buggers!’ That’s how they talk over there, I think. “Mass-awge me bloo’y bullocks alread-ee!’ She jumps up screaming because, well, it’s not a nightmare, there is actually a 64-year old set of plums dangling about her mandible. And, they probably got old to her overnight, like when you leave food out instead of refrigerating it. Old, scraggly, uneven Beatles ball? And no pre nupt? In her words, F/U, pay me!
Don’t even get me started on him!!!!!
No, really, get started! Explain how the man you have kids by gets a free pass from taking care of his responsibility. That’s all men have to do if we don’t want to claim it or pay child support? Make you hate us this much? Don’t show up for the birth, don’t care what you name it, stand firm that it doesn’t look like us? That’s it, then I am on the Do not call list?
Women, you need to make up your minds because, the men out here who haven’t knocked anybody up are confused. Is it wrong to avoid women with children? We’re doing more harm by being honest than the guy who abandoned you? You’re more upset that I can openly state I don’t want a woman with kids, but I cannot bring up the fool you had yours by? He’s off the hook, but I’ve got some nerve? According to you, it’s “Good riddance!” when, the guy trying to get to know you has to jump through far more hoops than the fool you now have reduced to a pseudonym, “Sperm donor!” ever has. Seriously? You’re glad he’s gone? Yeah, right!
Still, I am tired of meeting chicks with kids who don’t want the father’s name brought up..EVER! He couldn’t have suddenly been this much of an a-hole! There is no way! That’s why, I believe, their bitterness towards him didn’t come until after they’ve squeezed out a few look-a-likes, and now despise him so much that they’ve take on the overly used female clique, “I don’t need him. I’ll raise this baby on my own!” As if they had a choice.
It used to be that you’d hear one or two girls a year saying this. Now, it seems like a majority of the women with illegitimate kids hate the father, but dated these men long enough to pop out 2 or 3. Of the divorced women, not so much. But, with these single, never married baby mommas, the hatred seems to consume their very existence. “He’s tall for his age. Is his fath—? “(Screeeeeech!) Do-not-go there, okay! Do-not bring his name up to me!” “I don’t even know his name…….! What’s his name?” (Running away, ducking for cover.)
We don’t know this going in. You’ve just met her, you’re asking some important questions, the topic of kids comes up, she loses her mind! These women get upset, wanting you to drop the subject all together. How were you supposed to know? Is it still wrong for men to say they want nothing to do with ready-made families when this is what many of us are constantly running into? She doesn’t want to discuss Tyrone, doesn’t know or care where he is, or if he even calls, but you’d better come correct if you think you’re going to get her number, or take her out. As though you haven’t changed your mind already.
Bet money that, if she meets a straight-laced, down-to-earth fool with a verifiable income willing to marry her, she’ll take him to cleaners if she pops one out by him. He may owe child support for both of them if he married her in certain states. Gerbers and diapers for both kids, and she wants him to pay for both, since she can’t seem to locate Tyrone! Hell, some states punish the fool who married into that drama far more than the fool she cannot or, according to her, does not care to locate for support. But, “..don’t get me started on him!” Nah, I’d prefer you start.
Huh? …What?
The Unknown
When it comes to men, I’d say most women are attracted to what they don’t understand. The unknown. Whatever makes absolutely no sense to the average person is a turn on to them. They are attracted to what they can’t explain. Thus, $400 handbags on a $200 weekly salary. To other women, she’s got it going on. To a man with any common sense, he spots that she’s at the bus stop, carrying a purse this expensive. The same goes for shoes, other trends, and the men they date, and eventually complain about to a guy they should be dating… ”What was I thinking?” Yeah, what were you thinking?
Women, today, amaze with the audacity of their self-inflicted wounds and gripes. Don’t know why they’re with him, don’t know why they won’t leave him, but positive they won’t leave him. So, as for what is going on in those little heads of theirs, it is, and always will be, a mystery to them. It’s why their excuse for dating an asshole is always, “It’s just something about him.” They don’t even know why they have taken up with these knuckleheads! We’ve all sat back literally dumbfounded at how some guy we all can clearly see is no good for any woman, let alone, the drop dead gorgeous, often, grounded females he shows up with. Nurses, bankers, accountants, paralegals, all with wannbe, or, full-on thugs and deadbeats! We don’t know what she sees in him, but we know what he sees in her…a cosigner! Still, nothing explains her relationship with him. Nothing! And, believe it or not, that’s what she sees in him. Absolutely nothing!
This is why they end up telling their life story to a nice guy who seems to have all the answers. Every girl he’s ever had a crush on had to be impregnated, cheated on, or beaten up by assholes before she ever gives him the time of day. Nice guys are boring and predictable. Not to mention, can’t hit very hard. So, sadly, these women would rather date ….the unknown. Don’t know what they saw in him, when they will ever see him again, why he claims the baby isn’t his, why he hits her, ran off with her best friend, got another girl pregnant, and, sadly, why she still, deep down, loves him. She simply doesn’t know.
Their gripes are often the same. Go to any gathering place where women congregate to berate men, be it online or in person, and all you ever hear is stories about the one they should’ve left a long, long, long, long time ago, but didn’t. He cheated while she was pregnant with the first baby, and she hung right on in there. Meanwhile, there was a nice guy who wore an ugly shirt on their first date, and she never saw him again. Can’t be seen with a guy wearing a Hawaiian shirt in autumn! Which does makes sense, but, the cheater and abuser served an 8-10 year relationship sentence with conjugal visit, while the nice guy with the shabby wardrobe got off with a warning. They’d rather hang in there with a fashion-wise ass-whip’r than to simply buy a new shirt for the sweetheart who would never turn his back on them.
Ironically, this is who is not allowed to turn their backs on women. The nice guys who nurse them back to health after every incident. Bad boys can talk down, abuse and fiscally destroy a woman, and if her friend (the nice guy) gets tired of hearing it, he gets more of an earful than the bad boy. “I can’t believe you! I come to you in a time of need, and all you can say is ‘That’s your problem!’ Some friend you are!” All this because he’s tired of hearing stories about men she should know better than to date, but doesn’t know why she continues to do so. She doesn’t know what she sees in that loser, but she’s positive why she would never date this guy who, now, is tired of being her therapist and paramedic.
The View
I was hit with this question today: Do men these days think less of women? I answers a question with a question. “Or, are women thinking less of themselves, and the men just picked up on it?” Admit it, girls, (real women aren’t the problem) you show more of yourself (half-naked) to prove you think even less of yourselves. That’s an inside job!
Sure, I am appalled at how some men and society view and treat women, but not all women. Some deserve it, just like some men deserve it. Therefore, I feel that when women gripe and groan about the “quality of men out there”, the wrong men take this on for all men, and it’s usually the rappers, actors and athletes who would better serve us by keeping their mouths shut.
Want more proof? Music and television have desensitized women to the point where they don’t even know they are being disrespected. They no longer feel their behaviors warrant criticism or edification. Musicians call them b*tches and hoes so often that they can now gleefully sing and dance to it, and think nothing of it. Ironically, they seemingly only notice it when their partners mistreat, devalue, or use these words on them. A song could have the B-word in it 27 times, but if her man even calls her lazy, he’s got some s’plainin’ to do.
They rush home or set VCRs and Tivos to catch shows imply that women should explore their sexuality since men are able to sleep around without getting labeled for it. To openly embrace their sexuality. Thus, the success of two shows promoting whoredom with the same run-of-the-mill premise: 4 multiple successful, semi-attractive, immoral women sleeping around and openly discussing their sexuality to somehow embrace womanhood or inspire women. Name a show most women watch, and it’s four loudmouthed women, maybe one with a man, and the rest complaining about or being mounted by multiple men. From BET to ABC, they are nothing but simulated prime-time hookers! True, the way the media portrays women is demeaning. The music and the music videos often do send only one message—the women in those video will do anything for money! Same deal with strippers—don’t complain about how you are being treated at a job you applied for! The men you meet in these situations will mistreat you because it’s their money or fame you are after. So, what do they owe you? Respect? You didn’t have that when you applied for the “position”.
Listen girls, the guy who can get your phone, into your bed, and eventually creep out of your life having shown little or no success or aspirations of his own is the winner, not the loser. You chose a fool, he didn’t ruin a good woman, he exposed her. (I’ll get some hate mail for that line, for sure.)
The man and the mirror…
I’ve had to counsel many via email, and my response is always the same: Worry not of how I said it, but why I’ve said it. The tone of this book does not make it wrong, it only frustrates those in denial of it being about them. So, despite the reviews, or if some grammar junky finds fault in the book, the message is still true—women need to step their game up just as the men do, if not more, because being less than credible seems to attract women far more than it repels them.
Here’s how the bitter and confused operate: They will suck their teeth, roll their eyes, and, quite possibly, protest with gum crackery. After that, they will question whether I am gay or not. cute enough, wealthy, tall, or endowed enough to date them. Which, I assume, is the barometer of truth with the intellectually challenged, often single, delusional and disgruntled sector of the female gender.
Their M.O. is always the same: If the most attractive spokesperson in their group doesn’t find the messenger attractive, successful, or famous enough, nothing they say can be true. Then, here it comes… ‘Puh-leaze, he ain’t all that, so what does he know about women? It’s always, “Girlfriend, I don’t think he is all that either, to be talking about what we need to do. He’s prolly gay, or broke, or something. He’s probably mad because girls don’t like him.’ as they will all laugh until their cheeks hurt, and they realize that, though they would never date me, no one else is dating them either.
The reality is, this is not your ordinary, run-of-the-mill, self-help book. Therefore, I expect the backlash. It won’t upset me one bit. I know who I am, and I know that any feeble attempt to discredit me through insult or rumor is just their way of lashing out because, deep down, they know I am right.
Sure, I receive plenty of hate mail. In fact, from a few women who now question our friendship. But, mainly, from the bitter women who see themselves in each chapter I have written. Why else would one become so upset? They have to be exactly what I am writing about for it to hit so hard and upset them, so, the true test of reading any of my books will be: Can you weather the storm? Can you make it to the end without slamming it down, refusing to read another word of it? If you are ticked off by the middle or end of chapter 1, or every chapter, it’s no longer a book you’re reading, it has become a mirror! You see yourself. And you have been, or may still be perpetuating these myths against men, when, deep down, all along, the problem has been you. How does that old saying go? If the shoe fits, wear it. Well, it’s not my fault that your feet are hurtin’. Should’ve let someone else size you up. (Some pun intended.)
A good man is hard to find…
So many women these days are complaining about how hard it is to find a man, let alone, a good man. A good man is not hard to find, only difficult to spot to the untrained eye. If momma never brought one home, daddy didn’t exemplify it, or none of your friends have their kids by any, how can you determine where men do not measure up when you can’t show me a single example in your lives? You can’t pick ‘em, your momma can’t keep ‘em, and your friends never had one! You’re behind in the count 0 for 3 with the bases loaded so, before you throw out that next pitch, I’m coming out to the mound to chat with you.
I don’t get the impression that these women really want a good man, since they are overlooking all the right things in a man for the wrong things. Something most of them are going through when they are young until you realize what’s really important. The quality of man is not on the decline; what women try to pass off as men has crept ahead, even cut in line in front of what real men are.
These days, women try to bring home 30+ year old men with gold teeth, cornrows, tattoos and baggy jeans, when this man is showing you right off the bat that he makes poor decisions. If she doesn’t put two rubbers on him, she deserves to be a single mother because this guy never gave her any indication that he could step up to the plate, even if he could. The Escalade and two roommates should have been the red flag, but, hey, keep overlooking boring, nice guys with sensible automobiles and impeccable hygiene for these socially and emotionally stunted imbeciles you try to pass off as men, when they are simply your next baby-daddy! Then, you’ll be complaining to a good man about how some asshole did you wrong. I repeat: You’ll be complaining to a good man …about how some asshole did you wrong!
Here’s the problem, in a nutshell: Women today are always looking to upgrade. The total package, when, most of the ones that have it all are dogging women because they know all women want them, making it very hard for good men. I know what you’re thinking. Why does the man with all of that going for him dog women? Isn’t the man the problem? In many ways, yes. But, here is why the guy all women want to date dogs women—they don’t need these women.
1) He doesn’t need you, since, all women want him. He’s a millionaire, you’re a cashier wanting to marry a millionaire. You know nothing of how he acquired his wealth, cannot assist in growing or maintain his wealth, and you bring nothing to the table but good looks and good- (Darrell!). You’re p*ssy wallpaper. A trophy. There for decoration only.
2) He doesn’t even know specifically why he’s getting so much action with women, so, he wouldn’t know what to improve or change about himself regardless. And, why should he, if he gets women regardless?
3) He’s confused about what or who he is, but, still gets extremely attractive women. He can’t value you, if he doesn’t even know what it is women even like about him. Maybe it’s because of what he does, who he is, whatever. Women flock to him, effortlessly. He’ll dog you, trust me. That goes for rich, famous and extremely good-looking guys. They haven’t earned the privilege of courting you, so they take it all for granted. The fame, the money, and worse of all, you.
4) He got all of this too soon. The women, the attention, all before he never had to make anything of himself. Imagine being a young imbecile, but knocking off all the cute girls in your school simply because you have wavy hair, name brand clothes, or who your parents are. Most popular guy in school, star athlete, rich parents. You can never value women because you don’t even recall when you had a drought, or had to be anything to get them!
In most cases, women make it even worse by what a woman views as a good man. He could be good to her but, just not what so-and-so has or, he doesn’t spoil her in ways some other fool she is no longer even with used to. Now it’s “He’d be perfect if..” That’s why so many average men have a hard time; he’s trying to measure up to a guy he doesn’t even know he’s in competition with, but she isn’t even with anymore. “My last boyfriend used to–” Well, where is he, then? Answer that before you start dumping used ta’s everywhere! You’re telling a decent man where he doesn’t measure up to a man who dumped you some time ago? Please! Go back to him, then!
The odds of getting an elite male are slim by today’s standards for many reasons. Mainly because, much like myself, I expect a woman to come to the table as refined, motivated, successful, and childless as I am. I won’t accept any less! These women are better off finding a rich idiot, like a rookie athlete to get pregnant by his first years in the pros. Any other man who busted his hump to build or acquire a fortune isn’t falling for the banana in the tailpipe!
Nice guys finish last, or at least until women start having children, gaining weight, or have a lot of bills. Women always want the loser, or the guy that they deem more dangerous or exciting. Then they want the nice guys with a simple life. Guys who can hold down jobs since her mediocre one isn’t enough to support her brood. “I could use a man like you.” Yeah, …now.
Most men or women under 35 have no idea what they want and, most certainly, women don’t know what they want from men. Bottom Line: Most haven’t a clue who they are. And, until they know who they are, they won’t know who’s right for them. They want the men they see on TV, read about in romance books, or see on all of those “Men are dogs” movies.
For the record, it’s just as hard for men to find a woman who is:
*attractive; (Naturally! No weaves, clown makeup, implants, surgeries, etc.)
*heterosexual (24 hours a day)
*feminine (demure, soft spoken, elegant)
*can cook (excludes all microwaveable goods)
*educated (formally, not simply from the streets)
*motivated (beyond free admission to “Ladies Night”.)
*owns her own home and mode of transportation (without suing or divorcing to get it)
*works full-time; with a career, not some ole’ job
*has a plan for the future beyond age 30
*not weighed down with baggage from the last no-good bastard she fell in love with;
*interested in something besides clothes, shoes, sitcoms and gossip;
*can pronounce the word “library” (it isn’t li-berry)
*and SINGLE (completely)
Old school
Women of my generation have completely lost their way. They should reconsider what they try to pass of as a man, as well as, the treatment they accept from these so-called men because the standard of what a man was even twenty years ago in no way compares to what they are dragging home these days.
In speaking to the many mature women who have read my book, they thoroughly understand that the generation of men and women I have aimed this book towards will most likely deny that what I am saying is, in fact, the truth. Most happily married women (usually, over 40) agree that younger women accept little or no ethics, relationship or marital advice from them at all. Which is my point exactly. If the girls complaining about the quality of boys they are trying to pass off as men were to confide in the women of past generations, those women could shed light on what an actual man, husband, or wife actually is.
This is also why, for the life of me, I cannot understand why mature women see aging as a flaw, when, much like when women say men become wiser with age, so do the women these young, clueless women need to pay attention to if they ever want to become anything like the women who raised us decades ago. And, I say decades ago because, in most cases, going back one generation may not cut it. As we all know, there are 32 year old grandmothers out there. So, if often skips a generation. Young girls may need to go over their own mother’s heads to their grandmothers.
The truth worth of mature women is immeasurable, but from a youth standpoint, these young girls foolishly believe the words of a woman twice their age or older makes little if any sense when they speak. Older women are not unattractive or out of touch; just everything the younger girls, unfortunately, have failed to become. All the more reason why I simply absolutely adore older women, would date one over one of these new generation chicks any day! They are the true essence of what femininity, morality, and motherhood actually is. And they damn sure know that the piece of crap their daughters, nieces and granddaughters are trying to pass off as men aren’t worth a damn! This explains why a majority of the women in their 40’s and up do not take offense to the issues I point out in the book because, well, they are on my side. They know what a real man is! Grandma knew how to pick a man! That is why you have or had a grandfather…but your kids will not!